YES! That's all women want to hear! In the words of the famed Chris Rock, don't even let them finish their sentence. Baby can I have a..Yes! Baby will you..Yes! YES YES YES! This is the only way to avoid conflict and be at peace. Our fathers have told us this and their fathers have told them the same. Its a never ending piece of advice passed on from generation to generation. No matter what a woman says she HATES to feel like she doesn't have the upper hand. This is why we throw in the towel for every argument. We give women the satisfaction of thinking that they won the argument and we get the satisfaction of not having to hear them complain. I know I'm gonna get a lot of shit for this blog but whatever ladies this is what its for. Lets create some dialogue. Trust me, all men are gonna agree and most women will too. Men can never win an argument with a woman because we operate with logic and common sense. Women operate with emotions. Plain and simple. If they feel backed up in a corner they will bring up shit from the past, they will call you names, shit, even talk about your mother. As long as they can get you heated enough to either hurt their feelings or put hands on them. Ultimately you will be the cause for the fight. Now don't get me wrong I don't think men should ever hit a woman but if u talk about my mom I might shake the shit out of you..lol!
I have been single for the last 5 yrs but its been by choice simply to focus on my career because a relationship is work and right now I just don't have that time to dedicate. Now ladies I'm not saying that men aren't a handful as well. I know that many times men can act like little bitches just to keep it all the way real. BUT..for the most part we are simple creatures who just want to eat, have sex and watch sports. Anything you want to do in between is cool with us. We'll even go shopping with you and chase you around the mall for 3 hours while you go through every shirt and pants in every store and only walk out with a lipstick you found in Sephora. I am in no way trying to come off as a chauvinist or a man who is not sensitive to a woman's feelings. I get it! We both have to be there for each other through thick and thin. Its 50/50. I just cant sit here and argue with you all day about senseless shit. I'm not talking about if your man cheated or if he got caught indulging in promiscuity. That's something completely different. Overall if your not happy with your situation then CHANGE IT. Who knows maybe I bailed out of my last relationship to early but at the end of the day I was unhappy so I made a change.
I don't feel sorry for men or women who constantly say they have headaches from their partner. Yes as couples we all have headaches and you must go through them to test the love for your counterpart but there is a line and ultimately there is no love like love for self!
To finish up I hope I can get some good feedback on this. Lets create some good dialogue here! Pls leave your comments here and not on facebook or texting me!! Ladies....I love you all! YES! YES! YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ayyy Los...what can I say?! I think your absolutely right. But I don't agree with the comment you made about men thinking with logic and common sense. Not all men think that way. Actually a lot of men don't have logic or common sense. A lot think with the male reproductive organ...and personally I don't like to be yessed to death. I like an opinion once in awhile. Los sometimes I think you were a woman in your past life.... = )
ReplyDeleteI hear you. Some of the points I made in the blog were general. Some were direct and some were just meant to be entertaining. Overall this is what I feel. Just some food for thought! Thanks for the comment tho. Oh and if I was a female in my past life I must have been a bad ass bitch! Lol!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAlright here we go...first of all "WOMEN" will always be a "WONDER" simply because most women don't even understand themselves. So for a man to even try to break into this "UNKOWN" world will "ALWAYS" have arguements to deal with. Having a woman who argues is just one of those thumbs down, sometimes thumbs up perks that comes with the rest of the package. I agree that women seem to want to argue about "EVERY" damn thing. Come on ladies...is this really necessary? If your man is playing XBOX is it really cool of you to bother him about some bullshit. He's not running the streets acting a fool...but sitting in front of your face. So pick up the other remote and let him teach you how to play Madden. But on the contrary women do have to stand their ground when their men are just not good men-and I am not speaking of cheating or being abusive. Let's talk about the simple things men seem to fail at...But me, I have a man's man. Those who have a brain will understand that statement. My man doesn't know but does because he is a "MAN". Takes out the trash, holds doors, fixes what breaks, calls when the sun goes down, cooks when I don't feel like it, listens when I ramble, tells me I'm wrong when I am, washes the car, shovels the snow, fixes my clothes when im looking a hot mess, defends me, yokes me up when I'm getting on his nerves...lol (in a playful way-a way that always leads tooooo...yea u think about that) :) . He also gets on my last damn nerve to but there are just some things not worth getting worked up about. For instance, if we are on the phone and his main man calls, I get the "Baby let me call you back". Am I mad? No. For what? He got another call. Were we talking about what we were gonna have for dinner or some life crisis...obviously let your man be a "MAN". Let him be who he is. And if you don't like his BS or ways then leave him. Plain and simple. Now I am not preaching to come across as if women are the only ones with problems. Ooooooh we are a handful and just plain coocoo. But if you can't go a day without arguing about who it was that called, or why you didn't bother answering your phone, or looking at somebody's myspace page...then sorry buddies...you're just wasting your time. If Men could just be Men I guarantee there wouldn't be so many F'd up women out there.
ReplyDeleteAnd for the record...lol...no "REAL" woman wants a "YES" man...you'll just be perceived as a chump.
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This is a fun ramble, but I actually hate the inclusion of a Chris Brown / Rihanna photo into this rant, because it makes it seem like the only problem in their situation was not letting the woman win the argument. There's a huge, wide area between letting her get the last word and completely beating the shit out of her.
ReplyDelete~Laney B.!
Hey There Carlos
ReplyDeleteSo let me start off by saying that I agree with SOME of what you said.
I agree that there are women who argue everything and want to be right all the time, I think those women are either immature or naive as to what a real healthy relationship is. Think about what society and family has shown us. It is more common for divorce. Back in the day it was more common to actually work on the relationship. Then everywhere you look women are acting or portrayed as trashy objects. Not that I uses that as an excuse but I can see how females brought up with no real guidance or morales could see this as normal.
Now as far as how I disagree...
Men think with common sense and logic has got to be the funniest thing I've heard. There are a few exceptions to this, but for the most part I find that the logic in a situation has to pointed out to a man. Logic is not generally applied when it comes to a man and his ego.
I also feel that when men and women are in the getting to know you, "I'm so into you" phase they have a tendency to tolerate things that they wouldn't when dealing with long term. They are so concerned with getting the guy/girl and the now and not realistically thinking about being in an actual relationship with that person.
As far as YESing to death no thanks, show me you have an opinion, Show me you want to work it out, understand and come to an agreement or understanding. Avoiding it not really attractive.
I have more to add, but I have somewhere I need to be.
BUT I completely agree with Violet's comment!
lol ur last relationship was 5 yrs ago maybe ur analysis is heavily outdated... or ur walking around with major baggage mr.badu
ReplyDeleteAAAAHHHHHH I LOVE IT!! Okay so to address the Chris and Rihanna photo. It was just meant to be funny and entertaining, its not a segway into the blog and has nothing to do with the points i was making obviously. Thanks for the feedback everyone! Oh and a special thanks to all the ladies throwing shots! Especially u know who! I expected that one...YES YES YES!!
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